Lately I’ve had a lot of friends (yes I have friends!) who are expecting childrens (yes I added the “s” at the end because I’m from the South and the ‘hood and that’s how we roll). Once they figure out the gender of the baby, the questions from EVERYONE around them start to come. “What are you gonna name your baby?” “Have you come up with a name?” “Who’s picking the name?” “Did you guys agree on a name yet?” “What about (insert name here)? It’s a really nice name.” “What… is the air-speed velocity of an unladen swallow?” As an expecting couple, I’m sure these questions start getting on your nerves (just like it’s annoying when people rub an expecting woman’s belly, unless you have an itch, then I bet that isn’t such a bad thing, or is it?). So what are you gonna name your baby? Yep, I just did that. What is the fair way to determine who names the child? Luckily for you guys, I know the answer, and I’m gonna break it down for you…bullet point style!
When naming a child precedence goes as follows:
- Culture – Follow cultural norms for first born. Some cultures name their first born sons after the father of the son.
- History – Follow family naming patterns. James I, James Jr., James III (you get it?)
Once these are observed the rules are as follows:
- Whoever name the first born child relinquishes the right to name the second born. Think of it like a pick up game of basketball, you don’t get the first and second pick at the playground. Be fair let the other spouse get dibs on the second child.
- Alternate thereafter if there is no consensus on the name of a child. If you do not like the alternating approach after child number 2, then paper, rock, scissors is your best bet (obviously we know how I feel about PRS https://idonesaidit.com/2012/03/01/conflict-resolution-my-way-to-fix-the-world/).
- If the name doesn’t follow the Culture or History category and is a stupid name, just don’t do it. Seriously, if it’s a name that is gonna put your kid in the psychiatrists office at the age of 14, just save that poor child the emotional damage.
Simple. I just saved a whole lot of couples arguments. BOOMSHACKALACKA (that is definitely not even appropriate for this conversation)!! If all else fails tho, just name your child after me. If you don’t know my name, ya betta ask somebody!
(If you are a chick and you answered one of those questions in the first paragraph with “An African or European Swallow?” then we should probably get married and make babies so that this blog will then become relevant to our situation. Call me….maybe?)